A. The prolonged (chronic) negative stress resulting from bullying has lead to threat of loss of job, career, health, livelihood, often also resulting in threat to marriage and family life. The family are the unseen victims of bullying.
of the key symptoms of prolonged negative stress is reactive depression; this causes the balance of the mind to be disturbed, leading first to thoughts of, then attempts at, and ultimately, suicide.
target of bullying may be unaware that they are being bullied, and even when they do realise (there's usually a moment of enlightenment as the person realises that the criticisms and tactics of control etc are invalid), they often cannot bring themselves to believe they are dealing with a disordered personality who lacks a conscience and does not share the same moral values as themselves. Naivety is the great enemy. The target of bullying is bewildered, confused, frightened, angry - and after enlightenment, very angry. For an answer to the question Why me? click here .
We have many memories of these early years with Bob, among them a long weekend with Francine du Plessix in the villa belonging to her parents at Saint-Maxime; there Bob plunged into the Mediterranean, swimming a surprisingly agile crawl with measured strokes, but moving way, way out, virtually beyond our sight, arms pumping away, a tiny white whale, disappearing for at least an hour, to the great concern of his friends on shore: we’d not until then seen him as an athletic type. During that same weekend, he gave us a very brief and rare glimpse of American naiveté when, after requesting a sleeping pill and being given a French opiate suppository, he started chewing it and, munching away, drinking water, complained that French pills were very difficult to swallow…